For many of us, love is the center of life. And when love is not flowing, our days can feel empty and dry. This flow of love could be with a new boyfriend or girlfriend. Or it may be the precious love from/for a long-time spouse.
ROMANTIC WORDS & LOVING ACTIONS
Keeping that stream of love in motion is a challenge that many of us face day to day.
I was married for 30 years until my beloved husband suddenly died. And now, 4 years later, I am fortunate to be enjoying another wonderful full-time relationship. I have always had a great interest in finding simple words and actions that will give my lover a boost.
Here are 7 things that you can say and/or do to help keep that mysterious feeling that we call “love” aglow.
Talk – Romantic Words
1. “I am so grateful to have you in my life.”
These words are magic. Ten simple words that speak volumes and can mend torn feelings. During our hectic days, we tend to overlook an expression of gratitude for one another as a way to stay close. Say this to your loved one at any time, but especially when something nice has happened between the two of you. These words can deepen the feeling of trust and appreciation.
2. “I’m drinking you in…”
These words are a little riskier to speak, but powerful. You need to find the right time to say it, so that you do not feel silly. My husband used to stand in the kitchen drinking his coffee, and he would stare at me with loving eyes over the brim of his cup. Then he would say those 4 words. My heart would soar. I would tell him he was a crazy guy. And we would laugh together at our good fortune to be in love.
3. “I was thinking today about things we can do together. Why don’t we…”
This takes a little more thinking before you speak. Look for novel, inexpensive ideas that can be accomplished without much planning or work. Surprise her or him with the suggestion of a visit to an art gallery or a local concert. Suggest a walk in a nearby park. Or plan to take a bubble bath together. (You must supply the bubble bath crystals!) Or, as my beau recently suggested – “Let’s go have the best hot dog in town!”
Act – Simple Romantic Actions
There is nothing like the pleasure of touch. Next time you have a happy thought about the man or woman you love, act on it. Get up, walk over to him/her and put your arms around them. Just hug. No sexual come-on is necessary. This is a moment for the joy of simple physical connection.
It is very difficult to remain unhappy and disconnected when you are dancing together. Find the right time. Play a song you both like. Or perhaps a song comes on the radio… Take your loved one by the hand and dance. Don’t try to dance for the whole song. A couple of minutes can change and uplift your mood. You do not need to dance well for this to have a great effect. Dance for the fun of it.
7. IMAGINE – Floating in a Sea Of Love
Sometimes it is not possible to engage your loved one in physical terms. He or she may be far away from you, either physically (ie.: miles away), or emotionally (you need to do some healing work.)
In that case, use your powers of imagination to close the distance in your own mind – Love is not a fleeting, “now & then” element in life. We are surrounded by it. Love flows from friends and family members and from pets.
We are fueled by the love that we feel for our own lives; for our passions, our homes, and our work. There is always an ocean of love around us. But sometimes, we cannot feel it or express it.
When you feel that love is flagging between you and your beloved, try this: Find a few quiet minutes. Sit or lie down. Close your eyes. Envision yourself and your loved one floating in a sea of love. You are surrounded by effortless love. You ask nothing from him or her because the two of you are encompassed by endless love. Feel the fear float away… and relax. Know that you will be all right – no matter what. Then find ways to express your love to those who are around you. When your partner returns, you will be in a loving frame of mind and open to healing wounds or to re-establishing a deep connection.